Monday, June 11, 2012

5 Minute Blog: This Internet Life Ain't Real...

I think we can all agree that the invention of the internet was a turning point in society. The internet has made many things irrelevant: libraries, television, movies, going outside, talking with friends, actual in person physical contact…none of that shit matters anymore. If you have the internet you can do everything from the comfort of your own home. It’s amazing…or is it? When I initially started using the internet it was for two things: researching articles for school and Yahoo! Games (those suicide double nil games were everything).

Outside of that, I didn’t see a real need to indulge. I did have a Blackplanet page, a MiGente page, and a Hotmail account like everyone else but honestly being on the internet for hours outside of playing games was weird. Maybe because I had school, work, and a crucial ass social life when I was in college.

Fast forward to 2005 when the internet because everything to me. I started dating a guy who wasn’t as social as I was, and that’s okay. However, things that I would normally do with friends all of a sudden became unacceptable. Lying up in Crystal’s house all day, chilling with her kids, then going to a party was frowned upon. Why did I need to go to the club when I had a man? Fine. I’ll chill on the club, so what do I do when I’m bored? The internet. And that’s how that all happened. I became a member of one of the best and worst sites ever. Best because I have met some dope people from it and worst because people there will make assumptions on your life because they see you posting. That’s what this blog is about…the Internet not being real.

Three times in the past week I have had to tell people to not judge me or my life based on what they see on a message board, Facebook, or twitter. Internet life is manufactured and what you are seeing is only a fraction of what goes on in my real life. A guy tells me he had a crush on me but I apparently knew too many people so he chilled. In my mind, his hesitance was in the fact that he is a private person and didn’t want the “others” to be all in his business. I accepted this and told him “That’s not real and that’s not me. You see me talk to several people who don’t even LIVE in the state. In real life, these are the people I am with…” so he had formed this reality about my life that’s not remotely true. But if all you do is see me tweet, then that’s all you can base any opinion on. But it’s really better if you get to know the real me.

Another friend tells me he’s envious of my life, I’m always on the go and partying. It seems that way sometimes…but honestly I work 60 hours a week, and my hours are funny. I do make time to do things enjoyable and it’s in those times I tweet, FB pics, or whatever about my life. No one wants to hear about my long work days or the drama with whomever. They want the fun life. That’s what people expect so that’s what I give them. Do you see it now? Most of the people on the internet either alter or make up their lives. Not to say they are liars but they share with you only a fraction of what their real life is, and then others fill in the blanks. Instead of talking to people and doing a natural build, we assume we know who they are based on a few sentences here and there, some instagram pictures, and “mutual friends”.

You don’t know me. You don’t know anyone who you only communicate with via the internet. If you want to know the real me, just say so. I could end up being your best friend. You might end up being the love of my life. But don’t just judge my life based on 140 characters.