Sunday, September 27, 2009

Let me give you some advice... about you don't?

I am not interested in "your" advice on anything in regards to me and/or any situations past, present or future unless it personally involves you.

I don't understand why people feel the need to give you advice that you did not ask for or to try to point out what they think is "the obvious". And I hate it when people try to tell you what you *should* do, when what they *should* do is shut the entire fuck up.

Okay let me back track...the other week I went out with some friends and saw some people. One person kept trying to tell me about MY life and what I should do, to which I said "My life is complicated and I don't expect you to understand, so just KNOW that I know." and I kept it moving. This is my "leave me alone" statement. I am damn near 30. I am fully aware of how my life is and what's going on. I don't need people who have their own fucked up lives to tell me how to fix mine. But this person persisted to a point where I no longer enjoyed their company and was ready to go home.

Then there is the unwanted relationship advice from people who have never had a successful relationship. Every time I see you, you with someone new. Or you having babies with someone you knew for less than 6 months. Or your man is cheating on you. Or some bullshit. Let me tell you...if you are not currently in a successful, committed, married (yes, married), happy relationship then you can't tell me how to find the right one.

Then last week I mention that the recession has messed up my shopping. Then quite a few males chime in with the "you ladies need to find a good man to buy you things."


That's what a good man does? He buys you things? Really? Because if that is so, I had a "good" man who bought me a house, a car, and anything else I wanted...and that "good" man also cheated with several women. I ain't bitter tho, that's how life is. I learned alot and I moved on.

And from what I hear, one of the people who said this to me who claims to be a "good" man has 5 kids with 5 different women. (hmm...commitment issues maybe?!?!) and from what my girl told me, women would randomly pop up at his house while she was visiting him.

That's a good man?!?! Please God, send me one of those!

Look I do for myself. I handle my shit myself. And outside of me, the only others I can depend on are my family and my best friends (this is only 4 people who TRULY fit in this category). I may not have a lot but this shit is all mine!!

Those two degrees I got: I worked my ass off for a scholarship and I paid for that Masters myself.
The car I got: I bought it.
The apartment: I got that myself after i moved out that nice house!
Anything else: It's all me.

My life is MY life, and I would like to thank everyone for their concern on matters they nothing of...but really: You don't know anything. There are very few privy to my total life situation.

I am working on ME right let me give you some advice: Miss me with YOUR advice if you cherish the little bit of contact that we have.

Saturday, September 26, 2009

Girlie Blog: Neutrogena Triple Moisture DD Condtioner

The DD stands for: Daily Deep.

So if you are following my hair chronicles, you already know that the Neutrogena was recommended from Total Beauty. I got a bottle a few weeks ago for about $6 from Kmart. I finally got to try it last week.

The product boosts that it is a "daily conditioner with deep moisture benefits for soft, smooth, totally touchable hair" and it contains olive, meadowfoam seed, and sweet almond.

After washing my hair twice (once with Creme of Nature and then with Tresemme Moisture Rich), I covered my hair with this conditioner and proceeded to go to the grocery store. It was on my hair about an hour. I don't use heat for my deep conditioners because it tangles my hair.

Let me just say...I am in LOVE with this stuff already. It smells good...I can't describe the smell, but it's good. It's not too thin and not too thick. It covers the hair nicely and evenly. The draw back is that I used 1/3 of the bottle on my head. But that's okay, I have a lot of hair all over the place.

Once I rinsed it out, my hair was very soft (but not mushy) and smooth. As my hair dried, the curls were soft and fluffy (my hair is like sticking your hand into a bag of cotton balls). Like my hair was so soft I had to make sure it was MY hair. The curls were nice little circles at the end. Again I have super small curls but this helped with some definition. And my hair felt moisturized, it didn't feel hard or stiff once it dried. If my hair is already this soft and moisturized after one use, think what it will do for weekly uses?

I give this product a 5/5 and I am not even that generous. It's affordable and it works wonders! If you can find a coupon for Neutrogena products, it will be even cheaper. You do NOT have to pay salon prices to have salon quality products.

Thursday, September 24, 2009

There are still good people in the world...

don't ever forget this! If you don't know any good people, I would suggest you take a good look at yourself to see what it is you are doing to attract the wrong type of people. Goodness attracts goodness.

I was just reminded of this last week.
I won't get into personal details but there was a call put out there that a young child with cancer was in need. It wasn't a big need to be honest. The young kid is going through chemo and is now allowed to wear hats to school. He wanted hats. I couldn't provide a hat despite the fact that I wanted to. The hats I have are dirty and too big, and to be honest...I wanted this kid to have a cool hat. I hate it when people give away bullshit items. Like if you DON'T want it what makes you think that someone else wants it? I do give away a lot of my things but I give away nice items that are in good condition that are still wearable/usable.

Either way things came together on OKP. One of the nice posters over there just got a shipment of hats in for his store (how perfect is that?!?!) so I asked him "can you donate one hat to a cancer kid?" Now this guy doesn't know me personally (IRL) nor does he know the beneficiary of said hat but he agreed. And he sent the perfect hat!

How awesome is that?!?! (yes I said awesome). The mother was ecstatic and said that the hat was perfect for her son. Her emails and his inboxes bought tears to my eyes. He was so happy to help, she was so happy to receive help.

he did not have to help. but he did. I am forever grateful for that. Next time I am in Chicago, drinks are on me.

I am also grateful to all of the people who donated school supplies!!! My next stop is taking all these books in my house (the children's books I have from when I use to teach) to the Baltimore City library. so new challenge: if you have any books that you don't read, don't want...whatever: Donate them to your local library or school (school libraries need books too!).

Also...if you shop at Giant, don't forget to sign up your school under your club card. Giant donates money and supplies via A+ bonuses and the like. So at least you can grocery shop and help out if you can't donate.

Sunday, September 20, 2009

The Ecstatic Tour (9/16/2009)

Wednesday was the second to last stop of Mos Def's Ecstatic Tour. I am so happy they came to Baltimore because I missed the DC show a few months ago, and I was quite sad about that. For this show, my concert partner Sam and I got back in action and went out to Sonar (with her husband Jovan). (EDIT: the sound was only horrible where I was standing but I am not editing this whole post...the videos at the end sound good)

The show was at Sonar and doors opened at 7:30. I got there at 9 only to be told that Mos Def is not performing until 12. I assumed that Kweli would go on first, and that would be at 11. *sigh* It was definitely going to be a long night.

Anywho, the first performer was a dude named Hassan. I am sure I am spelling it wrong because I can't find him on google. Honestly I don't know who he is, and I came in after he started. Let me say, he was spitting some good shit but the sound in Sonar has gotten HORRIBLE. I couldn't hear half of what he was saying.

Next up was DCQ of Medina Green. This was promoted as being a "Medina Green" Act but it was just him. He was decent. I don't know the names of any of the songs he did, but he did kill what I could hear. Sorry I can't do better.

Next was Jay Electronica. I won't lie: I was hating on the player all day about him. Last time I saw him at Rock the bells, he was not great. He was decent, but not great. Dude straight up killed the show this time. I was shocked. I was like ORLY?!?! He went in. Again too bad the sound was all types of fucked up.

Next was Talib Kweli. Excellent as always. He stays going in. Most of the songs he played where from the last album, but he did do "Hostile Gospel" (my fav) and he ended with "Get By".

Then finally...Mos Def. He came out and played the drums. I would dare to say that he performed the whole Ecstatic Album. I still don't understand how people like that album but hate The New Danger. He did do "Close to the edge" off that album. U R The One from True Magic. Kweli comes back out and he does "Definition" and some other joint (horrible horrible sound...I went deaf by this time). He then does a "tribute" to Michael Jackson and sings "Billy Jean" (video at the bottom). He does a small rant on how Kanye is his brother and that he doesn't deserve to be crucified. Etc, Etc...he ends with "Umi Says."

All for $40.

4.5 out of 5. Best show I have went to in a while (shit...the only show I went to in a while...).
I didnt take a lot of pics because for some reason tall ass dudes love to stand in the front so I can't see. If you follow me on twitter, I think I tweeted a few. Facebook has some too.

Mos Def performances

Monday, September 14, 2009

Carol's Daughter and Disney!

How cute is this? Disney commissioned Carol's Daughter creator, Lisa Price, to make the hair care products for Disney's new movie, The Princess and the Frog. I find this beyond cute! I know when I go into Target, I always see other "princess" products. And it's nice to see that Disney realizes that black girls have different hair and they need their own products! The collection consists of a detangler, shampoo, conditioner, and bubble bath!

The products are set to be released in October and will be available in Disney stores and Carol's Daughter's online store. I think Princess Tiana is absolutely beautiful! And I saw an extended preview earlier and fell in love (sorry no link...they swear us to secrecy!). I think this is a great idea and all of the products are $10 and below! I don't have a daughter but if I did, I buy this off GP. I want Disney to know that black products and a black princess sells! I hope to see many Princess Tianas this Halloween!

author note: I am not turning this into a hair blog! This is like a hair, beauty, life, and hip hop blog in one. Actually some random things are coming up soon...and I hope that you enjoy them as they come!

Sunday, September 13, 2009

Grey is my favorite color

Random fashion pieces that I fell in love with while on Polyvore searching "grey" pieces. Grey became my favorite color a few months ago. I am in love with the fact that it's neutral and goes with lights, darks, and white. I am not a polyvore expert, so my creations are not all excellent. You know what upsets me...that "love" ring. It's almost $300. Damn. Either way I love Polyvore. You should check it out.

Sunday, September 6, 2009

America's Next Top Model Cycle 13

I am so excited. I havent' heard ANYTHING about this season except it's the "short" season, meaning all of the girls are under 5'7. Now I initially read on Long Hair Care Forum that they only picked girls who are around 5'5-5'7. This apparently is not true. Sundai, one of the 4 or 5 black girls (that last one I am iffy about what her race) is 5'3. I don't know about the rest, I haven't been able to actually watch all of the casting videos on CWTV (NOTICE: this is the only show left on CW with black people outside of the one black guy on 90210. That's fine CW).

Either way the new season starts on Wednesday, September 9, 2009. Two hour special. I am not yet tired of ANTM but I am hoping it redeems itself this season like Real World just did with its' Cancun season.

The infamous group shot:

From left to right: Sundai, Nicole, Laura, Erin, Lulu, Jennifer, Brittany, Courtney, Bianca, Rae, Kara, Ashley, Rachel, Lisa

(picture and photo courtesy of

of course, read/watch more about the girls at: (no link from me! LOL)