Sidenote: This is an extension of my post *over there* but I know a majority of my readers don't visit that site, so I will bring it over here and add a little to it.
I have been thinking about this for a long time. I honestly don't see the point of people "committed" if they aren't getting married in the future. I don't see why a person (male or female) should say "hey you are the only one until the perfect one comes around..." It's crazy. If I am dating a guy and I don't think he's the one, or vice versa, then I don't care if I am the only one or not. I'd rather do me, and let him do him and we can do us when we are together. Let's enjoy our time together, and as long as we respect each other, it's all good.
I think monogamy is a wonderful thing...however, there are people who decide to be committed to some loser for the sake of raw sex or comfort. Many people hate to be alone and feel safe being in a committed relationship. I am not knocking that. It's just not for me.
If I meet you and I am feeling you, and you feeling me, then we can do this. Some may call this "casual" dating. And most people would say "why would you want to sleep around?"
okay hold up...dating and sex are two different things. I love going out with different people. I like having options. I like dating. When it comes to sex, I am picky. I don't have sex with every guy I am dating. Sex is a sacred and wonderful event. I am all about free love, I think men and women should sleep with who they want as long as they are safe about it.
In my lifetime of dating (I guess the past, 16 years?) I have had only 4 boyfriends. All of whom I thought I would marry one day. Each man I was with for at least 2 years, and for whatever reason it didn't work out. If I dated a man and asked if he would have want to get married and he said no, then he would never become my boyfriend. Now there was a guy in college I met and he laid everything out there, and said what he did and didn't want. And we ended up "dating" for 6 years. We never had a problem or an issue. No arguments, no fights...no problems. When we were together, it was wonderful. When we were apart, I went on with my life and he did his. There was no stress. That's how things should be.
Dating for years is not my cup of tea unless it's leading to a ring on my finger. If that is not your intent, I am fine with that. Just be honest. We can have fun, but I don't need to be your "girlfriend", I am perfectly content just being your "friend".
or maybe I am waiting on some ole' Keri Hilson "Knocks You Down" type action?